“Are you… feeling sorry for yourself? I do it all the time. It’s useless. Take that energy and go make something awesome…” – Andy Traub
Do you ever feel stuck? I do. Some days I wonder if there’s something wrong with me. Am I just so impatient I can’t wait for anything?! Most days I feel like I’m spinning my wheels. Like one day a few years ago, I pulled into a parking space at an apartment complex. There had been a big snowstorm the night before and the snow was piled all over the parking lot. The only parking space I could find had a small pile of snow spilling into it. Thinking it was no big deal, I parked there. When I went to back out, I discovered that I was stuck. So, I started spinning my wheels to try to get out. As you may know, when your wheels start spinning on snow, the snow turns quickly to glassy-smooth ice, and it gets harder, not easier, to get out.
Careers, jobs, and difficult relationships can all feel a lot like that snow drift. The more you give in to anger and frustration, even panic, the more stuck you feel. All you need sometimes is a different perspective and a slightly different plan of attack. When I stopped revving my engine and spinning my wheels and took a minute to walk around my car and look at it from all angles, I got a different perspective. I realized that my current strategy was going to keep me stuck right where I was, but if I started rocking my car back and forth, with short bursts of controlled motion and energy, I might get unstuck. So, I got back in my car and tried my new strategy. With a little back and forth effort to get the rhythm right, I was soon out of the snow drift and on my way home.
Another great way to get help getting unstuck is to seek wise counsel from a trusted friend. As Andy Traub wrote, You Are Not Alone.
How do you get unstuck?