Call me old-fashioned, but I still think marriages are supposed to last a lifetime. I think most people would agree that marriages ideally should last a lifetime, but that it just doesn’t always work out. Fair enough. What do we do about that?
My mom used to tell us kids that when she married my dad she told him it was for life. “I’m not getting divorced. If you want to get rid of me, you’ll have to kill me.” It was a tongue-in-cheek way of throwing down the ‘C’ word – Commitment.
The problem with commitment is that it isn’t enough just to say you’re committed to someone or something. It helps to have a strategy. And leaving yourself ‘outs’ is not a great strategy. You’d be surprised how many people say things like, “Oh, we’re committed, but everyone has their breaking point and some people just can’t make it work.” Look, here’s the thing. If, during the good times, when nothing is going wrong, the best you can muster is, “Yeah we’re committed, but you never know,…” I guarantee you aren’t going to make it. How do I know?
When did Noah build the ark? (Answer: Before the rain.)
The ark is commitment. If you don’t build an unshakable commitment from the beginning, when the rains come, you’re sunk. I’m sure some of Noah’s neighbors thought, “He’s crazy. Even if it does rain, we have a boat. We don’t need an ark the size of three city blocks. We can ride the storm out in our dinghy.”
The dinghies didn’t make it. How about you? Are you building an ark or a dinghy?