“Faithful are the wounds of a friend.” – Proverbs 27:6
So many people have no one to tell them the truth. It’s helpful to have the truth wrapped in love, perhaps sandwiched between some compliments, but we need to hear the truth. Many great leaders have fallen because they were surrounded by “Yes-Men” and lacked anyone who would tell them the cold, hard truth. A wise leader will seek out honest and wise men to fill this role.
Mentors, teachers, friends, and others can be useful in this regard. It is best to agree verbally to hold each other accountable. If you have one or two men whom you have given permission to tell you the truth, they can literally save you from ruining your life, perhaps. You need to be careful whom you choose as an accountability partner, though. If you choose someone who is not trustworthy or who cannot keep your confidence, you’d be better off not having anyone at all.
I was once saved from continuing down the path of a destructive relationship by a faithful friend. At just the right moment, when I was in desperate need of clarity and ready to receive it, but completely unable to see the forest for the trees, my friend Bob said, “What the (bleep) do you see in her anyway?” I was stunned. I opened my mouth to reply and realized that I had no answer. That “wound” from a friend helped set the course of my life in a better direction.
Who tells you the truth?